One is age. As men age, the nerve endings in their penis become less sensitive. So, what used to make them fire off a round easily may not quite get them there anymore.
Two, drugs. Medications can interfere with ejaculation, specifically, most anti-depressants, anti-hypertensives (high blood pressure medicines), anti-psychotic drugs, and some diuretics. In addition, excessive alcohol, marijuana use, or opiates can have a dulling effect on the ability to climax.
Three, disease or injury. Husbands with diabetes, multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injury and injury to the pelvic region can experience difficulty with orgasm. For all of these, the nerves in the genital area have been negatively affected, so arousal to climax is more difficult.
Four, masturbation. Masturbation for any reason and of any kind is often not advisable. If you masturbate often, you train yourself to react to that more efficient form of arousal, rather than the slower- and vastly more relationship-building -interaction with your honey. Husbands may then have difficulty achieving orgasm with intercourse rather than self-stimulation.
Five, a quick note about pornography: If your husband is viewing pornography as well, that adds yet another barrier to achieving orgasm through regular sexual contact. Porn is a shortcut to arousal and those addicted to porn may become physiologically unable to take the long way home.
Six, performance anxiety. If a man has difficulty achieving climax, the next time he may worry about climaxing, which makes it hard to achieve. He will now worry more about achieving climax, thus making it harder. Stress and anxiety hinder our ability to perform in all areas — from public speaking to getting your daily runs up to date.
Seven, pregnancy fear. If the wife wants to conceive and the husband isn’t ready or willing to become a papa, he may subconsciously withhold his “seed.” If for some reason, a wife is in that spot, she needs to address it. You simply shouldn’t bring a child into this world without getting ready or willing to be parents.
Eight, relationship issues. For both husband and wife, openness is involved in sexually engaging and climaxing. The husband may not even be consciously aware that he’s doing it, but if he feels resentment or frustration with his wife, it can carry over into his ability to ejaculate inside her.
Nine, by the way, fatigue is another thing spouses overlook, but sometimes, they are just too tired to do anything meaningful. So, I think being tired can be a contributing factor, especially as a man ages and it takes longer effort to reach climax.
Ten, when couples lack full information about premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation refers to the inability of a man to delay ejaculation during a sexual act until their spouse has reached orgasm and are duly satisfied. By the way, it happens when a man releases or discharges after he has reached orgasm during a sexual encounter.
Eleven, many men are obviously unsure about how long a ‘normal’ sex should last before ejaculation. A study looking at 500 couples from many countries found the average time between when a man is putting his penis into his partner’s vagina and climaxing is eight-and-a-half minutes. Though there are no definitions of how long a sexual intercourse should last; nevertheless, ejaculating too quickly will not be a satisfying experience to the spouse.
The condition is so bad in some men that it happens every time they engage in lovemaking with their spouse such that their partner never reaches a climax. In some men, it’s even worse; they discharge even during foreplay, before they have had the time to penetrate the woman’s vagina. This has destroyed many marriages and put a big question mark on many sexual relationships.
Twelve, normally, depending on some circumstances and how they are handled, a man should be able to thrust in and out during the sexual act for ten or sometimes fifteen minutes.
Thirteen, most men who suffer premature ejaculation come in the very first minute, leaving their partner unsatisfied and unfulfilled. This kind of condition should be a source of concern to a man because if this continues, it can throw the woman into sexual frigidity.
Fourteen, premature ejaculation could either be lifelong or acquired.
Fifteen, in a case of lifelong premature ejaculation, the husband has been experiencing premature ejaculation since he started having intercourse. It means it has been present from the day he began sexual activity.
Sixteen, with acquired premature ejaculation, the husband in question previously had successful sexual intercourse and only now has developed premature ejaculation.
Seventeen, this suggests that it has not always been the case; it only resulted after a period of relative normal sexual functioning. Characteristics of husbands with lifelong premature ejaculation could include the following; psychological difficulties, deep anxiety about sex that relates to one or more traumatic experiences encountered during development.
Eighteen, cases of acquired premature ejaculation can include the following: erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, psychotropic drug use, etc.
Nineteen, the challenge of early ejaculation has been divided into three parts.
Twenty , mild – occurring within approximately 30 seconds to one minute of vaginal penetration.
Twenty-one, moderate – occurring within approximately 15-30 seconds of vaginal penetration.
Twenty-two … Severe – occurring before sexual activity, at the start of sexual activity, or within approximately 15 seconds of vaginal penetration.
Twenty-three, premature ejaculation is believed to be a psychological problem and does not represent any known organic disease involving the male reproductive tract or any known lesions in the brain or nervous system.
Twenty-four, premature ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder in men younger than 40 years. It has historically been considered a psychological disease with no identified organic cause.
Twenty-five, the cause of premature ejaculation varies from one person to another.
Twenty-six, for a large majority of persons, it is lack of skills, being untrained in how to delay ejaculation.
Twenty-seven, some persons are more physically sensitive than others. Just like when you tickle a fellow, some persons jump up that you almost wonder if they are only reacting to the tickle or something else. And then you tickle some other persons, they hardly move. We vary in the way we respond to external stimuli.
Twenty-eight, people who are very sensitive or extra sensitive to external stimulation will like suffer premature ejaculation, while people who are quite ‘numb’ will suffer it less. I will explain further as we go on.
Twenty-nine, the problem of a percentage of people who suffer premature ejaculation is psychological. They only need a bit of a paradigm shift to do well in these circumstances.
Thirty, when a husband does not know that his first purpose in the sexual act is to satisfy his wife, he will only mind satisfying himself. Such a man can be a victim of premature ejaculation because his mind is so occupied with his own satisfaction.
Thirty-one, every husband should understand that they have a duty during sex to satisfy their spouse.
Thirty-two, making love with your spouse and abandoning her halfway is irresponsible. So, a man should fix his mind on satisfying his spouse first before being satisfied – escorting his wife to orgasm first before getting climaxed.
Thirty-three, this mental shift will make the next few tips easy for every man to imbibe. Once again, it is out of place to climax in sex while your spouse has not reached orgasm.