LOVE ARENA : Impact of infidelity on Children

1. When you are sexually cheating on your spouse, you start to spend less time at home because of your cheating plans and guilt; meaning you will spend less time with your children.
2. When you are emotionally cheating on your spouse by chatting on the phone, you spend a lot of time on the phone – perhaps in the bedroom, you become defensive and agitated when your children need you to stop looking at your phone and give them attention.
3. When you are cheating on your spouse, your spouse stops being your priority. Suddenly you start seeing the wrongs of your spouse, you start mistreating your spouse, not caring how you hurt him/her. Your children notice wondering why are you so mean and it hurts them.
4. When you are cheating on your spouse, you have to finance that afrair using money meant for the family. Suddenly there is no money to do things for your children, you don’t take your children out anymore, your children ask for something and you say “There is no money”
5. When you are cheating on your spouse, in comes other vices; drinking, bad company, lying, violence, disrepect, don’t care attitude, you forget about family values and start to fail your children. Infidelity opens up doors to other vices.
6. When you are cheating on your spouse and your spouse knows, your spouse will most likely become bitter, negatively affecting how he/she parents and relates with the children. It is difficult to raise children whole with a broken heart.
7. When you are cheating on your spouse, it will erode your moral compass and credibility making you feel you have no moral authority to mentor your children, especially as they grow older and more perceptive. This is why cheating spouses avoid their teenage and grown up children.
8. When you are cheating on your spouse, you start to avoid family activities such as praying, going to church as a family, taking your children to visit their grandparents. You deny your children wholesome growth.
9. When you are cheating on your spouse, parenting can become a competition between you and your spouse. This is because you are elevating the one you are cheating with and looking down on your spouse so you look for faults in him/her. This puts your children in an uncomfortable place because they love you both the same.
10. When you are cheating on your spouse, and your children get to know, they might honour you as a parent but stop admiring you and wanting to be like you. You lose the opportunity to lead your children. You only lead someone who admires you. Your child will look forward to moving out and leaving your space.
11. When you are cheating on your spouse, you break the trust and view of marriage for your children. They ask themselves, “If mom/dad; who was to be my hero can do this, then I don’t want to get married”
12. When you are cheating on your spouse and your spouse stays tolerating you for the sake of the children, teamwork will disappear. Suddenly you two will no longer work together in finances, parenting, family vision… meaning you will rob your children that unity that is so important.
13. When you cheat on your spouse and your spouse chooses to leave you, the breaking of the family will hurt your children for life. You might be too absorbed in your pleasure episodes to notice how much it pains your children.

It is not worth it. Imagine how blessed your children will be if you two choose to focus on your family, turn down distractions, work as a team and be role models to your children.